2013/09/24 (Tue) 16:09
誰該天生對你好


題記:沒有人天生就該對你好,每一個人的每一種好,都彌足珍貴。

剛從學校走入社會的時候,因工作的關系認識了一個行內的一個牛人,身處重要位置的她待我非常好。不僅工作方面願事無巨細手把手教,還如一個母親一樣偶爾關心我的生活。譬如說,在某個重要的日子,她送了我一套職業裙裝,很高檔。我一切都沒往心裏去,將一切認為理所當然;沒有太多感謝的表示,甚至有時還有所唐突。

直到數年後的某一天,我在一個左右為難的環境裏無緣無故受了大委屈,突然就想起那個母親一般的人,她曾經對我那樣好,眼淚刷地流下來。我立即跑到街上買了一張卡片,認認真真寫下了幾句話,寄給她說:多謝你曾像對待家人一樣對待少不更事的我,直到現在才明白那有多麼珍貴。卡片沒有回音,但我猜想她應該收到了。又過了一年,我因事去了一趟她家,一進門就看見那張色調明亮的卡片方方正正擱在客廳的電視機上。我心一動,盡管遲了些,這個善良的人總歸是收到了一份真切感恩。

一年年過去,我已不再是當年那個魯莽的家夥。此間經曆過許多事,說過很偏激很傷人的話,也與幾個很重要的朋友在人生的路口一一話別等等,一直到今天,實實在在的今天,心裏冒出了如題的牛欄牌奶粉那句話:沒有人天生就該對你好,每一個人的每一種好,都彌足珍貴。

從前也曾贊同過一種看似前衛的觀點,譬如說父母生孩子其實都帶有自己的私心,那就是希望孩子長大後會有所回報。一些“很有個性”的人由此提出,孝順不應該是一種責任,父母生養了孩子就有義務教養,至於孩子孝順與否則並非“必需”的事。初看到這種觀點,我一笑而過,亦覺有些許道理。今天不再這樣想,父母也不是天生就該對你好啊。這個世間還有一些不那麼稱職的父母也會有不那麼孝順的子女,他們都是一種人生殘缺的印照,卻不應該成為一種行為普遍化的理由。大恩不言謝,但心裏要知道,為了我們的順利成長,曾經有人付出很多很多。如果有機會,一定要在有生之年說出來:我知道,你對我的好。

對其他朋友、家人甚至陌生人,也要有適度的“知道”之心。好些年前曾經丟失過一個朋友,我們認識的時候各自有戀人,且彼此之間只有溫暖的坦白的友誼,因此自始至終都是坦率而純粹的朋友。由於心無遮攔,他給過我很多關懷,包括工作遇到問題時的鼓勵,以及失意時的細心寬慰。因為彼此的坦蕩,不久後他的女朋友也成了我的朋友。但在一個突然的場景裏發生了一件突然的事,由於我的疏忽引起誤會,又由於內心的驕傲不屑解釋,一個星期後彼此成為路人。此後聽別人說起他,不乏刻薄的評價。我裝作不熟,心裏卻知曉,我與他曾經明明白白證實過,男女之間可以有純粹的友誼,而那時的他多麼良善,恰如兄長。他對我曾那麼好,如海灘上的白沙一樣,一眼就可見到清潔細致的質地。可彼時不明白,沒有人欠我的,沒有人在誤會面前真的不需要解釋。此事讓我逐漸懂得要以合適的方式去珍惜朋友,要在誤會發生的時候委婉卻清晰地說出真相,要有一定的感恩之心,包容善待自己的人,這當然也包括身份稍稍有點敏感的異性普通朋友。

到廣州恰已十年,認識或忘記了許多善良的人。如今走在單位大院甚至是附近街上,都會遇到有人友善致意。有些人叫不出名字,彼此依然會微笑相對。那些點點滴滴的親切,早已模糊了身份,只記得那都是曾經對我好或者我曾經對他好的人。就像兩尾魚,在某處遇見過,在此處笑顏相對。如今明白,這些並不深刻的牛欄牌笑顏,都是來溫暖我們人生的。珍惜他們,應該如同植物珍惜陽光。

沒有哪一種發自內心的好,禁得起別人長時間的輕忽與淡漠消磨。在日常生活裏,在親情、友情、愛情中,均是如此。只不過有些人耐寒性強些,有些人弱些。別人對你的好,也許不僅僅因為你可愛,更可能因他的善良與包容,以及相逢在同一時空的緣分。美好的覺察與感恩的心,無論怎樣累積都不會溢出。這讓我們時刻在成長,聽見花開的聲音。

至於那些帶有些許挑剔甚至惡意的人,恰如某些“高人”所言,他們是來考驗我們的修養與定力的,附帶考驗我們的人生達到了哪種境界。對於本性不壞的人,亦可靠近,終有一天他(她)會以心底的純良一面待你;對於本心有殘缺的人,疏離也不失為一種選擇。每個人都有自己的際遇與道路,誰也不能成為誰的拯救者。我們最終只能承受自己的人生。

2013/09/02 (Mon) 15:59
不是我,而是風

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白天突然黑了。

我墜入白天的黑夜。

我希望墜入黑夜的,不是我,而是風。

我希望聽著你說,希望我說分手的那個人samsung galaxy mobile case,不是我,而是風。我希望聽著你說,你一邊愛著我一邊推開我的那個人,不是我,而是風。

不是我,卻是我。

在黑夜裏,讀到雪小禪的《不是我,而是風》,心更痛。

不是我,而是風。多美的語境,多美的浪漫,多美的純粹,多美的愛情。

親愛的,不是我,而是風。是風陪伴著光陰中的你我慢慢變老。沒有鏗鏘有力的山盟海誓,沒有動聽悅耳的甜言蜜語,卻是在風裏經得起光陰的打磨,經得起歲月的考驗。我只想,說愛著你的,不是我,而是風。風輕輕的吹拂著你我由黑變白的頭發,柔柔的吹拂著你我蒼老的容顏,陪伴著你我的日日夜夜。

風在,情在,愛在。

風是充盈的,是曼妙的,是無處不在的。

心一搖曳,風就生了,就風生水起了,就風起雲湧了。

風是暖暖的,也是涼涼的,也會冷冷的。暖的是你我的心扉,涼的是你我的炎熱,冷的是你我的沉默。

風一直在,風一直吹。

愛情是一場春風。

春風吹一吹,吹開了桃紅柳綠,吹開了紅男綠女的craft online store心扉,吹動了癡男怨女的愛恨情愁。

春風多美呀。把心吹活了,把水吹媚了。

不是我,而是風。將詩情畫意搬進你我的心房;將美好的世界關著你我的情深意長。將你我的容顏不疲不倦的慢慢吹老。

不是我,而是風。守著執著,見證你我的天荒地老,永恒。

愛情中也司空見慣離分。也有飄散如風。

張愛玲愛胡蘭成,眾人皆知,愛得那麼烈,那麼盛,那麼狂,那麼固執。胡蘭成還是走了,張愛玲還在原地。

愛情不是一廂情願就可以永恒的,複雜的東西太多,有時候沒有理由。如同愛一個人的開始,說不出理由,就那麼愛了,就那麼戀了,就那麼沉沉迷迷了。

愛將人升華,不管是美好還是慘不忍睹。

所有的藝術,融入了愛,大放光彩。

我和你,你的獨特或許會融入我文字的夢特嬌男裝風格;我和你,或許只能是不能言說的秘密;我和你,或許只能是看點在風起中文網寫的那篇《我是你眼中的一滴淚滴》。

我仍然夢幻著,我們回到從前。

不是我,而是風。著,我們回到從前。

不是我,而是風。

2013/09/02 (Mon) 15:58
What's in prospect for NRL Round 21

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PREVIEW OF NRL ROUND 21 MATCHES (all NZ times):

FRIDAY, Aug 2

Newcastle Knights v Brisbane Broncos at Hunter Stadium, 9.35pm

Head to Head: Knights 12 Broncos 27

Last clash: Round 13 2012 - Broncos 50 bt Knights 24 at Suncorp Stadium

The Broncos continue to walk the finals tightrope, with any more slip-ups almost certain to remove them from the playoff race Bo Ying Compound Eu Yan Sang. In a boost, coach Anthony Griffin has welcomed international centre Jack Reed back from a broken collarbone weeks ahead of schedule and he will give former Test prop Ben Hannant until game day to overcome a calf injury. Clinging to their own place in the top eight, the Knights must do without former representative props Willie Mason (cheekbone, calf) and Kade Snowden (suspension).

Key: With no Mason and Snowden, the pressure is on David Faalogo and Zane Tetevano to provide the upfront grunt for the Knights to compete with the Broncos' go-forward.

Tip: Knights

Penrith Panthers v Sydney Roosters at Centrebet Stadium, 9.35pm

Head to Head: Panthers 30 Roosters 49 drawn 1

Last clash: Round 8 2013 - Roosters 30 bt Panthers 6 at Allianz Stadium

Even without suspended superstar Sonny Bill Williams, everything points to the Roosters continuing on their merry way to temporarily at least leapfrogging Souths to go top of the league. The Roosters have won five straight and conceded just 12 points in their past three matches, while the Panthers have dropped out of the eight with back-to-back defeats and another loss could leave them perilously placed four points adrift of the finals zone. Mitch Aubusson comes into the back row in place of Williams.

Key: Mitchell Pearce's left-side combination with hard-running back-rower Boyd Coydner is proving deadly for the Roosters and the Panthers must nullify the State of Origin duo to have any hope.

Tip: Roosters

SATURDAY, Aug 3

Warriors v Cronulla Sharks at Mt Smart Stadium, 5pm

Head to Head: Warriors 14 Sharks 16

Last clash: Round 3 2013 - Sharks 28 bt Warriors 4 at Remondis Stadium

The Sharks were impressive in a 28-point thumping of the Panthers on Sunday but, with the club in upheaval after the walkout of CEO Bruno Cullen and the players facing untimely and distracting ASADA interviews, they will be doing very well to hold out the rampant Warriors on their home patch. The Kiwis have won seven of their past eight and knocked over the premiers last week. A big win over the sixth-placed Sharks could even see the two sides trade places on the ladder and the Warriors finally crack the top eight.

Key: The Sharks have been the big winners out of Todd Carney's Origin snubbing while Warriors half Shaun Johnson has also been electric and whichever playmaker excels is likely to swing the result.

Tip: Warriors

Parramatta Eels v Manly Sea Eagles at Parramatta Stadium, 7.30pm

Head to Head: Eels 45 Sea Eagles 80 drawn 4

Last clash: Round 17 2013 - Sea Eagles 50 bt Eels 10 at Brookvale Oval

With the Eagles on the up and the Eels on the nose, this could get ugly. While Manly are flying, four straight wins propelling them into third spot, the Eels have been dreadful for months and face the grim prospect of not only 10 consecutive defeats, but also 10 losses in a row to their bitter rivals. With no Jarryd Hayne children’s bedroom furniture, it's hard to see where the Eels' points will come from. Certainly not from Chris Sandow, who has slipped further down the halfback pecking order and can't even get a start after youngster Luke Kelly was ruled out. With the result a fait accompli, the big question is whether Manly hardman Steve Matai squares up with Mitch Allgood after the Eels prop belted him at Brookvale last month.

Key: Even the home-ground advantage can't save the Eels to the key, in truth, is trying to stop the Eagles racking up another 50 points.

Tip: Sea Eagles

North Queensland Cowboys v South Sydney Rabbitohs at 1300SMILES Stadium, 9.30pm

Head to Head: Cowboys 9 Souths 13 drawn 1

Last clash: Round 9 2013 - Souths 28 bt Cowboys 10 at ANZ Stadium

Unless the Roosters misfire, the Rabbitohs must win to retain top spot and should do so with the Cowboys' season on life support. But six points out of the eight, the lowly Cowboys haven't completely given up the ghost and are vowing to send sacked coach Neil Henry out with a bang by winning six straight to sneak into the finals. That would be some turnaround after losing their past three. Young gun Luke Keary has again been named on extended bench despite his two-try salvo as a super-sub against the Gold Coast, while veteran Matt King has retained spot in the starting side after a superb return after almost a year out with a broken arm.

Key: One of the anomalies in sport is that teams tend to lift following the sacking of their coach - in ways that would previously have kept the coach's job safe. The Cowboys are in desperate need of inspiration in any way, shape or form.

Tip: Souths

SUNDAY, Aug 4

Canberra v Melbourne Storm at Canberra Stadium, 4pm

Head to Head: Raiders 9 Storm 23

Last clash: Round 8 2013 - Raiders 24 bt Storm 20 at AAMI Park

Playing at their fortress, the Raiders will fancy their chances of continuing the premiers' post-Origin blues with a 13th straight win in the national capital. With three wins on the trot, the seventh-placed Raiders are travelling so comfortably that coach David Furner has resisted the temptation to rush backline star Blake Ferguson back from exile. Ferguson scored for Mounties in the NSW Cup in his first match since being suspended by the NRL for his costly late-night drinking session before Origin II. He still may get a late call-up, but the Raiders may not need him to conquer the Storm, who have lost their past two games to slip to fourth.

Key: Canberra's home record this season is as intimidating as the NRL has to offer, but the Storm are used to chilly weather and will be desperate to reverse their run of outs.

Tip: Storm

Gold Coast Titans v Wests Tigers at Skilled Park 5.00pm

Head to Head: Titans 5 Tigers 5

Last clash: Round 9 2012 - Tigers 15 bt Titans 14 at Skilled Park

After four successive defeats, it's do or die for the Titans, already two points adrift of the top eight and with a poor points differential. Not helping their cause is a hefty injury toll and the Titans will be without forward leader Luke Bailey and playmaker Albert Kelly. Titans coach John Cartwright is also under pressure as his side face's the prospect of missing the finals for the third straight season. The Tigers Canadian Chartered Institute of Business Administration, already out of the running, are playing for pride, which could made them dangerous, especially departing superstar Benji Marshall.

Key: The Titans have struggled to replace injured fullback William Zillman but the speedy David Mead's inclusion at No.1 has the potential to spark them into life.

Tip: Titans

MONDAY, Aug 5

St George Illawarra Dragons v Canterbury at Oki Jubilee Stadium 9.00pm

Head to Head: Dragons 10 Bulldogs 15

Last clash: Round 12 2013 - Bulldogs 16 bt Dragons 14 at ANZ Stadium

Any momentum St George Illawarra might have gained from their shock win over Souths was stopped dead by Canberra last week and with only pride to play for the Bulldogs should have the Dragons' measure. Canterbury sit in a logjam of teams in the bottom of the eight and this is virtually a must-win for them. Saints have been poor at Kogarah this year and the Dogs look to have far too many points in them, even without Ben Barba.

Key: Sam Perrett. Put in a man-of-the-match effort in the win over the Eels last week after Ben Barba limped off and will need to keep up that sort of form with the superstar fullback out for five weeks with an ankle injury, if Canterbury are to snare a finals spot.

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